What Color Should the Moms Wear?

Hey there, lovely wedding fam! As a seasoned wedding planner (and certified mother-in-law wrangler 🫶), I’ve helped so many moms find the perfect wedding-day look that’s both stylish and appropriate. But let’s talk about the question that pops up every time—what color should the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom wear?

If you’re a MOB or MOG reading this, first of all—congrats! This is a big moment for your family, and you deserve to look and feel fabulous. But if you're staring at swatches and second-guessing every dress you try on, don’t worry—I’ve got you.

Here’s a fun and practical breakdown on how to pick your perfect color:

💡 Step 1: Take Cues from the Couple

The first step? Ask the couple if they have a color palette or vibe in mind. They may want you to coordinate with the bridal party colors or avoid certain shades altogether (white, ivory, champagne—usually off-limits unless the bride gives the green light!).

Ask these questions:

• Are you okay with me coordinating with the bridesmaids?

• Do you want the moms to match or just complement?

• Any colors that are a definite no?

Most couples appreciate being asked—and they’ll love that you care about fitting into the overall aesthetic.

🎨 Step 2: Complement, Don’t Copy

You don’t need to wear the exact same color as the bridesmaids—but it’s nice to be in the same family. For example:

• If bridesmaids are in dusty blue, a deeper navy or slate blue is gorgeous for the moms.

• If the palette is warm neutrals, think taupe, mocha, rose gold, or even a rich bronze.

You’re going for a look that blends in with the overall vibe but still stands out as the stylish matriarch you are.

🤝 Step 3: Communicate with Each Other

Here’s a planner secret: nothing makes for awkward photos like two moms accidentally twinning in the same color! 😂

It’s always a great idea for the mother of the bride and mother of the groom to connect about their outfit plans. You don’t have to match, but you should be in harmony. Think of yourselves as the co-hosts of this beautiful celebration.

Pro tip: One mom can wear a print while the other wears a solid. Or one does a metallic while the other chooses a jewel tone. Variety is key, but coordination keeps the photos cohesive.

✨ Step 4: Think About the Season & Setting

What time of year is the wedding? Where’s it happening? These factors can help guide your color choice:

• Spring: Soft pastels, florals, dusty tones

• Summer: Bright jewel tones, citrus shades, lightweight fabrics

• Fall: Burgundy, navy, forest green, copper

• Winter: Deep tones like plum or emerald, luxe fabrics like velvet or satin

Also consider the time of day—daytime weddings often lean lighter and more airy, while evening affairs can handle deeper and more dramatic tones.

💃 Step 5: It’s YOUR Moment Too!

You’re a VIP on this day. You’ll be in tons of photos. You’re giving hugs, maybe a speech, definitely some tears, and probably busting a move on the dance floor. So choose something that makes you feel confident, comfortable, and like yourself.

Don’t be afraid of color. Don’t feel like you have to wear a certain style. And please don’t default to beige unless you really love beige. 😄

💌 Final Words from Your Planner

The biggest tip I can give? Don’t overthink it. Weddings are about love, connection, and celebration—not fashion rules and stress. The color you wear should make you feel like the beautiful, proud mama you are.

So get that dress, add some sparkle, and come ready to shine. We’ll handle the timeline—you handle the tissues and the twirls. 💕

Need help coordinating outfits, finding a dress that photographs well, or making sure the whole fam looks fab together? That’s where we come in. Let’s plan a wedding where everyone feels like a star.